I am having issues. I do not know how to phrase my issues with fh.

My work is longer hours than his (because overtime and a slightly longer commute each way). We both are out of the house for work 10 or more hours a day. I do not have time to research everything. He needs 3 hours less sleep than me a night. I tried asking him to research vendors for me and then I start discussion with them, but he does not want to. Read: we do not really have time in an average day, and weekends, well, he would rather relax or do chores.

He does not care as long as we sign the papers. Like, that's great, but it is just more work for me to do and less time you will see me in the day. And then he gets upset because he feels like I am putting our relationship behind an event.

So, anyway, he is trying to suggest we get a wedding planner. Because we really do not have a lot of time (he is not willing to sacrifice any of his time because he doesn't want to, and he thinks this is giving me too much anxiety). But the wedding is in less than 6 months and wedding planners are a huge chunk of money. Money we do not have (unless I budget crunch and diy literally everything for the decorations. Bitch).