Daily Discussion Chat - August 23, 2022

18 days to go and I’m so overcome with anxiety. I’ve been engaged since November 2020 so this wedding has been a long time coming. I can’t wait to move on with my life and not have wedding-related concerns swirling around in my head. It’s been hard to focus on work, especially because I’ve used very little PTO this year in order to take time off for the wedding and the honeymoon, while also saving time for later this year to visit out-of-state family members and have time off for the holidays.

Aside from needing to finish up little odds and ends, I feel like I’m just playing the waiting game at this point. A lot of the stress I have is centered around the fact that most of our guests will be coming from out-of-town. I feel a lot of pressure to make the wedding worth it for them and for them to have fun. I had wanted to have an intimate ceremony with immediate family members and friends, but it was important to my fiance to invite his extended family (in some ways, he's closer to his aunts than his own mom, so I get it). To balance things out, I invited extended family members as well, even though I’m not nearly as close to mine. I feel really nervous about seeing people who I haven’t seen in a long time. Our wedding will be casual and nontraditional, which is exactly what my fiance and I wanted, but I have insecurities about disappointing people.

Another source of stress are concerns about the weather. It's been raining a lot here lately. Right next to our venue is an overlook deck facing a river. It has built-in seating and seems like a perfect place for guests to hang out. Plus I've been really looking forward to guests playing our lawn games, especially because there will be quite a few kids. There's also an extensive patio where we'll be setting up string lights. It feels like rain could take away so much of what makes this venue special, especially because the lodge is on the smaller side, and I worry about people feeling cramped in there.

Siiigh. In the end, I really hope that all of this will be worth it.

/r/weddingplanning Thread