How old are you? Look into teen challenge in California. It is religious and very strict but it seems like your in a position where the freedom of being able to come and go at sober living place is too much for you. Teen challenge is a year long, its free too the best of my knowledge, and they will get you their. You will only be with the same sex, you wont have many priveledges at first. You gradually get more priveledges, eventually a few months in they will help you get a job. Once you prove you can go to work, make money. And not relapse, more priveledges will come your way. Its set up so at the end of the year you are working, have money saved up, and are in a position to get your own place. Its not something that is for everyone because it is religious and it is strict, but at least look into it and see if it is something that interests you. I have known a few people who have had great success with it. I was going to go but I was 26 at the tine. and its only for 25 and under. It may not be for you, but looking into it cant hurt, and if you try it and its not for you you can always leave.