I might get shit for this, but fuck it, I'm using a throwaway anyway. I've been in multiple situations where I wouldn't say they were all rape, but they definitely all involved things that were not totally consensual. Because people might doubt my definition of consensual, here are the descriptions - 4 guys, including an ex, were physically causing me pain because there was not enough lubrication for me and I asked them to stop and they said no and kept going, that's rape. I guess I have trouble getting aroused enough for sex sometimes, which isn't their fault, but they still should have stopped when they knew (and I made it very clear) that they were hurting me. I don't believe drunk sex is always rape, but another two times I was definitely too drunk to consent. I don't like to think of those times as rape, but some people would consider it rape (at my level of intoxication) and I respect that. One guy choked me without asking first, not rape but still not consensual. I'm a pretty good judge of character but all these guys seemed nice, I certainly didn't expect them to behave this way. My point? It's very easy to get into sexual experiences lacking in consent - not even just for women, but men too. People are shitty and sometimes you don't know until you're in bed with them or even dating them. Personally, I'd be more concerned about whether dating would be good for her mental health. If she was raped, she probably has PTSD, and as someone who has been diagnosed with it and everything I know it can take a while to heal enough that you can be in a functional relationship. If you like this girl, I'd still give her a chance if you think you can handle it. If you can't, back out before you hurt someone who is possibly already scarred. I'd for sure bet that at least one of those times was rape.