Our mutual friends are actually my only friends (I have 2 other friends that aren’t in the group and I do talk to them daily, but work and life makes it hard to see each other very often) and I hang out with them more than she does because me and those friends still live in the same town. I would be totally OK if they had a separate relationship with her. I have tried distancing myself from her twice and she has always viewed it as me abandoning her. I feel guilty all over again because I am the reason why she has some of these issues so I can’t cut ties. I’ve been in therapy since I was 14 and I’ve been really trying to get over my guilt. It’s a process I’m working through it. I feel like I can’t tell her that when she does this itmakes me feel guilty because in my mind that’s manipulating The situation and deflecting my actions. I don’t want her to feel bad for expressing to me how she feels.