Are you 100% ethnic chinese or mixed chinese and viet? Are you and your viet BF both Asian American second gen? What are some key things do you think that seperates you and your social circle from dating fobs? Thanks

lol I think that these questions are oddly specific. As Asians unite as a community (pan-Asian), our strength will improve. I was raised Chinese, but my parents were war refugees in Vietnam so they speak the language and know the culture. My boyfr and I are both second generation Asian Americans. I cannot think of anything specifically that keeps me from dating Asian guys (versus Asian-American). But possibly relevant:

1- I speak fluent Chinese. My boyfriend speaks fluent Viet. But neither of us have an accent. 2- My BMI is 30, so a bit thicker. I think that is off-putting for ethnicities like Chinese, Japanese anywhere in the world. Local men in Phillippines, USA, Canada, Caribbean definitely notice me. I was in Tokyo (so very Westernized) and men definitely notice. 3- I've never dated Black or Hispanic. Last few guys: Viet second gen, Taiwanese second gen, Russian immigrant, White guy who was wayyy too white (He asked: "What's so special about Chinese New Year's?" WTF I'm not a Chinese culture class)

Um, the biggest mistake that guys (and lots of Asian guys since I predominantly date them) is they get laser-focused on what they presume girls want and practice on it. Like a gym rat who believes he needs/pursues sexual experience (ew!) or the constant attention/messages during a relationship. Like in my original post, I TOLD my boyfr about these feelings. He dismissed them; he either decided that they were unreasonable or he doesn't even care.