It's the restaurant with too many good menu options.

Lmao please. Too many good options? Look at how men talk about their (potential) matches on r/tinder or even in this thread. Many of them don't have an ounce of respect for the women who use these apps. Many of them admit to swiping right on everyone. There are a ton of creeps, men who start the conversation by asking for nudes/sex or men who are intentionally vague about what they are looking for (when they know full well it's sex). Even for women who are looking to hookup, they need to make sure they will be safe. You clearly don't understand the woman's perspective in this situation. And for people who do have many options, yes, it makes sense for them to choose what they perceive as the best option, I don't see why you make it sound like it's gender specific.