Why is dating so complicated in Turkey?

Make friends, date in your social circle and then go into dates with mutual friends. Tell your friends you want to date a girl but can't find someone and let them find pictures of girls, said girls will be also shown your picture then if all goes well, it is a date.

Going to Kadıköy or İzmir won't help like these people here say. You are not going to be low risk ONS either since you are half Turkish. Although there is a small population of students from other cities in İzmir who don't have closed communities. But the advice doesn't hold true for İzmir natives. As someone who lived in different parts of Kadıköy all my life, what people suggest here makes me laugh sometimes. My friends circle is more open and more sexually active but we are just as closed to outsiders, if not "more" since we will vet people by stalking their families and seeing if they have a relative wearing the hijab. Since our parents are usually more succesful than most, we have also endured higher expectations from our childhood so we will also stalk your education and career. Then we see if you talk like an ass. You will say something wrong on whatsapp and it will be the fun subject girls talk going over your conversation in Caddebostan Cafe Nero. Not to mention the girls in my circle has more oppurtunities than most in dating so our vetting might not be some traditional "marry me uwu" but we are probably more selective. Just by being more "open" than most Turkish girls, I had that "marry me uwu" thing happen this year online not from Turkish dudes but from European dudes, although I always say I am in a committed relationship and not interested. Northern Europeans drop it, Western Europeans keep at it. Some of them feel like "Meriç" waiting for the off-chance for me to break up with my bf. I generally think dating works somewhat similar everywhere, the only difference is how prevalent ONS are. (as long as it is not Saudi Arabia)

Don't try to make random convo with girls on markets, bookstores etc. This is not a thing for Turkish girls, this holds true for most metropolitan areas where attractive girls are tired of the advances. The most dense areas of New York, Tokyo, Paris etc. An American girl living in NY is equally tired of this. Men don't realize they are targeting like the most attractive 20% of girls when they try to approach someone casually and they have just collected all their courage while those girls get hit multiple times a day. For dense areas, yes it is "WHAT kind of sociopath just approaches someone!" while as for less density neighbourhoods and cities it will be ahhh cute this guy in bakery hit on me, because for girls it happens much less when you live in a less dense area. You will also target girls who are less attractive and more in your league in areas with less population density so your chances will be higher than in the city. Being a girl in the city is like being an attractive girl online in real life, people trying their advances get tiring

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