Dating as a man is absolutely miserable

I agree with everything you said except the very last sentence. As someone whose friends are all guys but know endless women who have been deeply hurt by men in their life, we’re just careful. The “independent woman” trope comes from somewhere, and it’s pain. Loving a man is slow but loyal, and difficult to give up. In my own opinion, being loved and valued as a woman is a battle for many men, because of a certain complex that includes either loving her or sexualizing her. One comes before the other, or they cancel each other out. If one exists, the other doesn’t. In my experience, and almost every woman I know. Not every woman.

But yes, as a woman who’s also on a gay dating app - women be hard to score. Even saying hello can be risky. What if it just isn’t interesting enough? But I otherwise don’t want to come off too strong by saying the wrong thing etc etc. I feel you! I guess I just see both sides.

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