Dating is the Worst <or> Dating past 30? You have my respect/pity.

As a guy I loved dating in my 30s. [Trigger Warning] Being completely honest here so don't go thinking I'm being all "red pill" but women in their mid 30s are just about complete Loony Tunes. The majority were either:

1: Married at a young age and being cheated on by their husbands

2: Married at a young age and bored with their husbands (+ kids) and looking for an excuse to cheat.

3: Recently burned/divorced for one of the above reasons and looking to be the 20 something wild child they missed out on.

But almost all some form of a batshit crazy hot mess. Years of repressed or unfulfilled sexuality bursting out of them, yet crushed under an acquired distrust of the male species as a whole, again combined with feeling their advancing age (usually amplified by the fact that they now have teen daughters who are hyper-sexualized in dress and manner) all blend together in a ticking time bomb of insecurity and wackiness.

Forget Tinder. I'll tell you the greatest dating tool for the middle aged is Facebook.

God bless that damn Facebook. I must have torn a swath a mile wide through the female side of my graduating class thanks to Facebook. Women who I had had crushes on back in school. Women I didn't. Women I remembered well. Women I couldn't remember at all.

Almost without fail, all being one of the listed numbers above. And after a little catching up and small talk, is the greatest pick up phrase of all time for mid 30s women...

"I had such a crush on you back in school."

Almost always exclusively replied to with "Well why didn't you ever say anything to me?"

To which comes the reply, "I was intimidated. You were so out of my league."

BOOM!

Ego stroked. Sense of desirability rekindled. Memories of youth awakened.

And the best part is you don't have to lie. Most of them are either afraid of commitment again or just don't want it. So I always prefaced with, "I'm really not looking for a relationship." and they are not only fine with that, they (think) that they prefer it that way. they are "proving" to themselves that they are now a free and independent woman who don't need no man.

Really, it's a fun time to date so long as you're not really looking for a life long commitment.

And above all of this, dating is really fun in the 40s where the women have fully ripened and matured. Most of the silliness and insecurity and angry jadedness is gone, leaving behind fun, sultry, confident women who know how to be true equal partners. I never once found a woman I felt confident enough in to marry until I started 40s dating.

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