[Day 150] AMA -- Never Be Game Over

I turned 26 this year

When I say "no urge for PM" I mean it in the sense I no longer feel, "omg i want to get off so horny time to find a video", I still have sexual desire, but it's much more deeper and emotional. As for peeking, I think it's simple lapses in self control, brain just wants a shot of that dopamine, and then I wrestle control over it anyway

Close emotional connection with another human being

My ex of three and a half years left me half a year ago and it devastated me, this was what led me here. I feel we have a good chance at a second shot but I am not rushing back into things, I've learned a whole lot about sharing intimacy with another person after I removed PMO/porn from my life

I've always been an extrovert, as in if I don't get to vocally speak to someone my brain starts feeling anxious and trapped and isolated, and yes, I now can easily and effortlessly hold conversation and eye contact with just about anyone, I used to work in retail and I'd fumble my words and couldn't communicate effectively, now almost everyone across the departments knows me by name

Yes and yes, sex without emotional connection is now completely meaningless to me, when I used to PMO, in that climatic moment I always was overcome with this rush of a feeling "omgiwantagirlfriendthisisawesome", so I have always subconsciously maintained where my priorities were, now that I have much better self control, I can simply deny myself to hooking up through operant conditioning ("if you do it you'll turn yourself back into that useless sack of shit earlier"), I am not against it in anyway, I just no longer find it appealing

PMO is your brain telling itself "life is okay, life is good and situation normal"

Hooking up to me is your brain telling itself "life really is okay, look you're satisfied on all fronts in life"

Having meaningful, emotional loving sex with a significant other, is their brain telling your brain "we are one now"

PMO is the nuclear waste buried deep underground, NoFap is your long climb up the ladder out the silo, hooking up to me feels like a barren desert of mirages

Sex with girlfriend, that's oasis

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