3. Dear Lesbians and Gays — I’m Bisexual and You Treated Me Like Crap

Dear Lesbians and Gays — I’m Bisexual and You Treated Me Like Crap

This is a good point.

Everyone close to me in my life knows that I'm bi, but I'll admit to sometimes staying mum when meeting new people.

Coming out as bi presents problems that are uniquely different than coming out as gay.

For one, it's pretty easy to socially spot a homophobe. But with bisexuality it seems like you can be having a perfectly reasonable conversation with someone who seems very open-minded and then suddenly a prejudiced/ignorant comment comes out of left-field, such as: yeah but you need to choose a side, yeah but I still don't believe it exists, or but I still wouldn't consider dating a bisexual person. And a lot of these comments come from within the LGBT community as well.

And also, with gay people, coming out opens up their dating life. With bisexuals, coming out often greatly reduces it considering the massive amount of people who (consciously or subconsciously) consider being openly bisexual a deal-breaker in considering a prospective romantic partner.

So I agree that more people coming out definitely is something positive for the greater community. But I wouldn't fault anyone who makes the choice not to, or makes the choice to be out only with selective people.

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