I'm 31, software engineer

I finalized my divorce a little over a year ago

I moved to the San Francisco area with my current girlfriend after living in Seattle for 8 years (got a job offer with a 26% raise)

I sold my car

I sold my house (closing tomorrow!)

Paid off all my credit cards and have continued to pay off the balance every month

For the first time in my adult (post-college) life I am 100% debt free and it feels GREAT! I finally have the financial freedom to really plan and save the way I want to.

Now I am taking time to decide what's next in my life.

Professionally - I will probably stay with my current company until sometime next year and then look for a startup OR start my own company. I feel like I am at a place where I have enough experience to do whatever I want and still young enough to have the energy to actually execute and focus the next few years on it so I better take advantage of this time.

Relationship - My girlfriend wants to get married but I just don't have any interest in that. This has become a point of contention in our relationship and I'm not really sure how to handle it. I really love her but I don't know if we are on the same page about what we want. I'm scared that it is going to mean the end of our relationship but I really need to do a lot of soul searching to figure out what I really want and how to deal with this. I feel like shit - I have a girl who is head over heals in love with me and is certain she wants to devote the rest of her life to me, and I am mostly indifferent. :( I know it's shitty position to put her in so this is the biggest issue in my life to resolve right now.

Socially - I am blessed with a great group of friends where I live so I never feel lonely. My family lives nearby so that's also great!