He/him throws me when talking about npd and aspd

So what, npd and aspd are female but bpd is a male disorder? You make no sense.

we’re in a bpd forum

Exactly, so why expect people to hold to outdated conventions of using he/him pronouns? This is a place for people to share experiences, vent, etc, from their own personal experiences and in whatever way they choose to express themselves.

What I'm saying is that this post is thoughtfully written by someone who says right away they are not an expert on the subject, simply writing out their take on bpd as a non-bpd person based on personal experiences. If you look at this heartfelt piece and your immediate response is "I'm confused by the female pronouns" you missed the whole point of the post.