My first relationship was with a Korean American guy. I was not actively searching for an Asian guy, it's just that I was attracted to him and thought he had an awesome personality. He was my first love and my first everything. We were together all through high school, and during that time, I became very distant from my own family for personal reasons. I spent pretty much 90% of my time at his house, and his parents really took me in and treated me like family. During this time I only ate Korean food, and became pretty immersed in the Korean culture. I also did not have any friends in high school, so he was really the only person I spent time with besides his family.
We both ended up going to different college's and cut ties, but even though I was completely over him, I felt like a part of me was missing. It was not that I missed him, it was that I missed Korean culture. For the previous four years of my life, the only thing I truly knew was Korean American culture. Tbh I never truly saw us a being different races, it wasn't until we broke up that I realized how much I could not relate to white people. Although I was not actively seeking Asian friends, the girls who I hit it off with right away and became super close with were Asian. It's just that my personality does not seem to mesh well with white people. Once I started dating again I realized that I had no attraction to white men. I could not relate to them AT ALL. Besides that, I was not physically attracted to them either, even if they were considered attractive.
Upon being single, I realized how desirable I was, but it was also annoying because I had to constantly reject white guys who hit on me. It was also difficult because people judged me and made fun of me for only liking Asian guys. I saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, in fact, I was very open and honest about it, but of course people said I had a fetish or "yellow fever." It's funny because there are plenty of white girls who only like black guys (Kim Kardashian for example) but no one gives them shit for it, or else they're considered racist. I like what I like, it's not something I can help.
Long story short, I ended up meeting a Korean man who actually had a thing for white girls. We hit it off right away, and are now madly in love. The thing is, no one ever judged him for only liking white girls, but I've gotten tons of shit for my "Asian fetish"- especially from the white and black guys I had rejected. Judging from my experience's (and I have had A LOT of them), it seems like white men hate the idea of an attractive white woman preferring Asian guys, so they make fun of Asian men and put them down. From an Asian mans perspective, how do you feel about a white girl only liking Asian guys? Do you find it weird or offensive? Or is it completely normal and okay? Also, do you think white men are to blame for so few AMWF relationships, because of how they emasculate Asian men? Thanks for your input! :)