Dentures

Agreed. Like, ugh. This is my biggest frustration with the entire situation. I'm not even a biological child, (my siblings are though.) I'm adopted. That's why I'm so much younger. Not that blood relation really matters. My dad's my dad and I love him and I can't not make sure he's taken care of. I understand my brother and sister are scared to truly see what our dad's going though, but I have a hard time with accepting their method of coping by distancing themselves.

When I was briefly away at college, I'd come home during breaks and find situations such as: my dad hadn't showered in a long time, the bills went unpaid, the house was filthy, and often the only thing in the house for him to eat was expired hot dogs. I was heartbroken and furious with my siblings for neglecting dad when they had previously assured me they'd take care if him. They just couldn't handle it, I guess. (Which, to be fair, it's hard for anyone to handle.) This is all ultimately why I felt like I had to drop out of school and come home.

Oh, and my brother has durable power of attorney, but expects me to handle dad's finances and medical needs. Obviously, this makes the circumstances even more of a cluster eff. Sometimes I have to argue with him to do the things I cannot legally do for our dad.

Bleh. Sorry for the rant. I haven't vented in a long time and it shows.

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