I just want to say that you are an inspiration to me. You made such positive and amazing changes in your life. I wish I could do the same in certain parts of my life.
I don't really know much about the FA movement, but I do agree that carrying extra weight has health consequences and can affect family and medical staff.
This whole thing is reminding me of a girl I know. One of my best friends is dating a girl who is definitely medically obese. She is the single sweetest girl I have ever met in my life. The instant you meet her, you feel like you've known her your entire life. She went so far as to help her boyfriend's (my best friend's) ex-girlfriend find a job by sprucing up her resume and sending it out to a million different places until she got a hit. She lost her mother to breast cancer when she was only 10 years old and her father re-married a thin woman with a thin daughter that has been harassing her and making fun of her for her weight for more than 10 years. This past year she moved out. She's been working hard toward her goal to becoming a teacher and she is in graduate school for teaching. She's only 23 and she's nearly completed with her coursework and is already is a classroom. Every once in a while I see things posted to her facebook wall that I suspect to be associated with the FA-movement. On some level I don't blame her for wanting to be accepted. In that way, I really can understand the FA movement, but it's sad because I feel like she's such a sweet sweet girl and has been through so much AND she also has to deal with harassment related to her size. My best friend, who is her bf, has confessed to me numerous times that he would really love it if she lost weight and that makes me feel even worse. I can't explain how I feel. I guess have mixed emotions.
I am of the opinion that everyone deserves respect, fat people obviously included. I don't know enough about the FA movement to talk of its toxicity, but if it were arguing for acceptance and then also promoting a healthier lifestyle, I would support it.
With regards to to this girl, I feel like it's not my place to talk to her about her weight even though we've become close friends. I do wish I could help somehow though. My guess is that she turned to emotional eating after losing her mother. I really do wish we could stop hating ourselves and each other due to size and just focus on ways to live better and healthier akin to what you have been doing. I can only hope that this girl I know can follow in your footsteps. Sharing your story can really help people so conrgats for putting some good into the world tumblr OP.