In desperate need of help

Hello there bro,

I'm commenting on your one-year-old post, hopefully I'm still of help, or provide any kinds of useful information that can help you.

I came across your latest post on the dating subreddit and that got me curious, because aside from the seven times being cheated on, it seems like there is still something going on within you, and that led me to this one.

I would never claim to be an expert or therapist of any kinds, I'm just a fellow human being with my very own problems and still trying to figure them out one by one. Along the way I found something useful for me so I'm sharing them here with hope that they can also work for you. And this is going to be one long reply.

  1. Many years ago I tried to reach out for friends with the idea that they can point out my problems for me and show me how to fix them. One of my friend's suggestion was that the first thing that need to be done is looking back into my past and seeking what actually happened then acknowledging them, and the one able to do that is none other than myself. At first I didn't believe them, but I've been keeping that idea in mind since then.
  2. About three years ago I began listening to podcasts that features mental health therapists raising awareness; reading books revolved the same subject, some books with the author being a social activist who spend time talking with young people from difficult family background, people living in depression, and people who didn't have much time to live (due to physical health issues) - he listened to their stories, wrote them down and provided thoughtful explanation for each cases. These help me a lot on seeing many other aspects of life and seeing some parts of myself in them, which led me to actually acknowledge my own difficulties and call their name out loud. Which really makes me feel lighter and better afterward.
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