Here are some things that helped me since I was really overwhelmed at the beginning.

- I started thinking in term of how likely is it for me to cause traffic accident, which in most cases is not very likely.

- then start noticing for a second how other people are often breaking rules of driving and still reaching destination (no accident, no punishment) : e.g. people missing signs, not using signal lights when turning left/right, switching lanes at full speed or where it is not allowed, honking at you to move even though they are pushing over speed limit, etc. - I thought all drivers are gonna be better than me, BUT they aren't, most people are really average, there are few very good and few very bad. You are probably just an average driver, and that's also OK.

- Realize that you are probably a careful person since you already think so much ahead, meaning if you just let yourself drive and do nothing else (no overthinking) you'd probably drive just OK.

- You don't have to love driving to still keep driving when needed. I don't see driving as an art I'm performing, I see it as a tool in a toolbox, it gets me places, and also lets me help my partner who drives most of the time.

- I don't drive very often (not as much as I should) but each time I'm better and better, even though there is a whole month gap after last time I drove, you will be, too.

- Try to pay attention to driving itself, concentrate, as you gather more information each time you drive you'll start unconsciously adding important data, e.g. when is best time to react this way or that way. Reactions are learned on the road as they are needed, you can't learn them in any other way, as in chess there are countless combinations but that shouldn't scare you, everybody learns that way.

- Unfortunately driving is one of the things you can only practice by doing, and as you do you get better at it.

- And the last one, everyone's going through same process, some are more happy about and maybe like driving a lot, but learning happens the same way and not everyone knows everything, especially not when starting out.

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These are all things I internalized over time, it did not happen right away, but it's like everything just got demystified. Just by reading this it won't go away, but I hope it could help you even a little bit. :)