I could have written this. My husband received the exact same diagnosis. He had low testosterone and he was put on clomid for a couple of months and was able to get it up to where it should be. I honestly don’t remember what his other levels were. We had mTESE scheduled for July with a 50/50 chance of finding something. Long story short, I ended up getting a different job in June and we decided to put things on hold until the new year for insurance reasons.

In September my husband came to me and said he didn’t want to do the surgery. I was shocked, but we talked through it. I had more reservations about it than he did. I never would have thought I’d consider carrying another man’s child. However, after going back and forth we decided it was the right decision for us.

According to all tests everything appears to be typical on my end. We’re proceeding with IUI using donor sperm. Yes, it’s weird when I really think about it, but no doubt if this works it’s my husband’s child. We have done everything possible so that he’s just as much a part of the process aside from using his sperm.

I’m sorry about the decisions you’re having to make. I know what you’re feeling in terms of your husband being more okay with donor sperm than you are. As long as you’re working together to figure out what is best for you two that’s all that matters. I don’t have any wise words or advice. Please message me if you ever feel you need to talk.