While my mom did this my grandpa's wife (I call her my grandma but she isn't bio) was worse. Maybe the shift was so much more dramatic for her so it was much more noticeable? When I was a kid she would spoil me but once I got to be around 15 she would criticise everything I did and get mad that I wasn't the person she wanted me to be. Ever since I learned to read my dream job was to be an author, of course I had phases with other typical dream jobs kids have (astronaut was the longest besides author) and I wanted to be one all the way through high school (would still love to but it's difficult for me to stay focused on my own). My grandma would be supportive of this when I was a kid but the moment I turned 14 it turned into "okay but you need a real job like a doctor or lawyer so you can have money to take care of us. If you're going to be an author you need to be the next Rowling so you have money to take care of us" when I told her I didn't want to be rich, just comfortable she got so mad (grandpa did too). When it turned out I didn't worship money the way they do they started treating me worse, like my hobbies didn't matter when they previously fully supported me. Then when I was 17 she told me that the only way I could be like this was because I was autistic. I think I might be too now but I have no way out getting diagnosed but I see it as "Autistic (complimentary/neutral)" and the way she said it was clearly "autistic (derogatory)". Mainly due to fact that my partner is diagnosed and he is the first person I have ever regulated to on such a scale, plus watching many videos by psychologists and reading/watching other people's experiances once i seriously thought about it.