My first relationship lasted 3.5 years. We met in college and dated throughout most of it. After graduation I got a job in the USA and she had no interest in moving their from Canada. So, we decided to do the long distance thing. That was after 3 years of dating by this point. All was going well, she would visit me, I would visit her. Things got odd after a US customs officer took her to secondary and ripped her apart demanding proof she would be returning to Canada. From that point on she was forced to bring mountains of paper work to prove she would return. Employment letters, letters of enrollment by the university she was going to grad school, rent, and so on. Every time she was sent to secondary and treated like she was trying to come to the USA to stay illegally for ever.

She didn't like the USA before... well these experiences didn't help. She started getting distant, not talking to me, and acting strange after the 3rd time this happened to her. During that year's Christmas I came up and she didn't want me to touch her. No kissing, no hugs, nothing. When I did kiss her she acted all grossed out. Later on she said she didn't find me attractive anymore. In fact, I was repulsive. So, we broke up. Boy did that hurt. I didn't realize how 3+ years coming to an end, and not just a light end, but a you're ugly and I can't stand you end.

Fast forward a few months, I found out the real reason I became "repulsive". She apparently was so stressed with the US customers experiences that she and some friends went out, drank, and well... she cheated on me. When I later confronted her about this she spilled the beans. She didn't know how to talk with me about what had happened and knew we'd been together too long to just break up without a "good" reason. So, she fabricated one. That was a second punch to the gut.

End of the day I'm better for it. I'm with an amazing girl now.