If you don't pursue men why did you expect him to pursue you? If I said I didn't pursue women and I expected to be pursued, would you think of the situation the same? Ultimately, it comes down to you being in charge of your own life. If you want a result, be willing to pursue that result. He might not have wanted to be pushy, might have been nerves, might have been him not wanting to misinterpret friendliness for flirting and took the safe option. Who knows? But in order for a relationship to develop, someone has to make a first move. Neither of you did. It seems a little disingenuous to say it's always the man's responsibility to do something that you had an equal opportunity to do.