I don’t think I’ve bitched to high hell about her not taking sides, however it was always DH getting moaned at to fix things not the other way round. All his efforts were rebutted anyway so no point dwelling on that.

She hasn’t tried, not once. Dropping off Easter gifts isn’t trying without an apology. Dropping off gifts for their birthday isn’t trying without an apology. She has chosen to ignore the argument and the fact she has hurt us, and just try to carry out as usual. That isn’t trying to have a real and healthy relationship with us. That’s her trying to just gloss over things and it hasn’t worked.

My children weren’t in the room when I spoke my 3 sentences to MIL, so no they won’t have picked up on it.

I didn’t moan that she didn’t join the conversation. I will admit it brought me satifaction that she couldn’t join in and was uncomfortable.. but that was on her, her actions have caused the broken relationship. That’s probably not healthy on my part but I was proud that I didn’t act fake with this woman.

I don’t care if she bloody apologises, if she does - ok - we know where we stand. I don’t care if she ignores us! Fine! What I don’t like is when she wants to pop her nose up every 6 months and act like all is fine.