Why is it so difficult to make friends here

I'm a transplant as well, and it always has felt to me like Seattle is just more insular - other places it's easier to make casual friends, bar friends, work friends, neighbor friends -- but not inner circle friends (like hey, I need a help moving/ride to the airport/support through a tough time). Here it's like they're not up for being that so don't even want to open up their circle to the more superficial level of friendship? I don't know if that makes sense, just a thought. I live in a more residential neighborhood, and for years hadn't met most of my neighbors. I always felt a little guilty about not making more of an effort, but then again, none of them ever did either. Once I made a conscious effort to be more outgoing, I pretty quickly regretted it because people started asking for favors, even to the point of taking advantage. We've all lost basic community social skills, apparently. I think this may apply to starting friendships too - people may not want to get too invested if they think it may become a burdensome in the slightest way.

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