Dinner should be decided as a unit or by the person who has a little more time to think about it. (That unit being you and your husband.) During that time you both pick her up, you all should then decide about food. If you’re not hungry by then and you want food from a different restaurant later, have him go pick up food for you too.

All of this doesn’t necessarily matter though. It seems like your true conflict is with his lack of consideration to you. Maybe communicate that you don’t feel seen in those moments and you feel that you’re left to figure dinner plans out yourself especially while you’re pregnant. No pregnant woman wants to do that or much of anything during pregnancy….

You’re all a family it’s not really about the dinner or their bonding. It’s about his ability to be aware and considerate toward you.