Re: how much time we spend together -

With my 2-ex-, our lives were super intertwined, which is what made me moving away, and the subsequent breakup really hard. With my ex-, I shied away from mixing our lives very much. We started off seeing each other ~2 times a week, and that's also how we ended nearly a year later. And I could never be like, "Come over, I want to meet you".

For my next relationship, I'd like to gradually ramp up the time together. So maybe after 6ish months, we're sleeping over at each other's at least once a week, meeting maybe a couple of times more other than that, maybe working out/doing some hobby class together. Ideally, I'd also like to move in with them some time between the 1-1.5 year mark. I'm ooooolllld and I don't want to date anymore.