[Discussion] Long term nevermets, how does that work?

I'm in a nevermet relationship. I met him when I was 12 on an online game, and we hit it off instantly. We are exclusively committed to each other, and I don't think either of us has ever really found that to be difficult.

There are various reasons why we haven't met up yet. One reason would be age. We were way too young when we first met to even have a chance at making it happen. Our separation is over 2000 miles, and we're in different countries. The distance used to be closer to 1500 miles, but once he turned 18, he joined the military and got stationed even farther away from me. We were also never able to meet because I have an extremely controlling father, and my parents generally think that everybody on the Internet is a pedophile or a creep.

Now, I'm 18, he'll be 20 this summer, and we're going to try our best to meet up for a few weeks this summer. My parents are divorcing, so my father is no longer an issue, and now that we're older, we're both old enough to cross the border and all that stuff. He also has enough money to afford it now, due to his enlistment.

We've technically been "together" for 3 years. We split up for a couple years at one point, because the distance was just way too hard, and we were too young for such a big commitment. We still stayed in touch through that period of time though, and once he enlisted and I wasn't able to talk to him for a couple months, I realized how much I missed him, and we wound up getting back together.

We keep in touch through apps like Kik and Snapchat. We sometimes Skype, but that doesn't happen too often, for technical reasons. We also still sometimes play the game that we met on (Runescape) together.

I think it largely depends on who you both are as people, how much you both care about each other, and how much you're willing to make it work. Trust is a really huge thing, and jealousy can tear it all apart, so it can sometimes take a lot of work. It's worth it if you really want to make it work, though. <3 Your distance is much shorter than a lot of peoples', so I'm pretty confident you would have no problem making it work between you, if you both want to.

I sincerely wish you luck.

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