[Discussion] Some people say it is easy to get laid. Some people, no matter how much effort they make, no matter what they try, can't get any action. Those who identify with one side, what would you say to those on the other? (Men and women)

Friendzone, "nice guys finish last", and "girls just love assholes/all the assholes get the girls" are all fake. These are nothing more than weak excuses that suck you dry of any chance you have to get laid. They are nothing more than an easy way for you to blame someone else for something thats either purely unnatural or greedy.

Let me elaborate. Friendzone. You ever hear your friend say or maybe you yourself has said "Yea man she put me in the friendzone wtf".

The entire friendzone concept is incredibly selfish, fucked up, immoral, and disrespectful to a degree that most people dont fully accept.

When a woman puts you in the "friend zone" it basically means she see's enough in you to either continue being friends or not evolve into anything more. When you say she put you in the friend zone you are reducing to her to the level of a farm animal.

You are basically saying that she is incapable of forming her own opinions, that she should want to be with you simply under the basis of YOU wanting to be with her, and possibly whats the most insulting to YOU is that you believe there isnt any value in simply being friends.

Its sad because to clarify, being friends is always open by nature. Attraction changes with time and being friends is in some cases a way of saying "I'm not interested in exploring myself with you sexually, but I am open in exploring myself with you on a lesser level".

This CAN change, it doesnt mean it WILL, but it CAN so its really degrading that guys are so greedy that the second a girl wont sleep with them they are suddenly "just a friend" whats even wrong with that?

Having friends increases your own value as an individual, and for the record. Girls LOVE when guys have female friends because it shows that you are desired by other women it doesnt HAVE to be sexual to increase your value.

Next. Nice guys finish last, is total fucking bullshit. Do you describe yourself on your dating profile as " a nice guy" or dont understand why your "a nice guy" who cant get laid?

Let me break it down for you. Saying your nice is like saying you breathe air. Everyone is "nice" its possibly the most vanilla thing you can say about yourself. Even if you flip it, it makes sense.

Would you want to have any kind of relationship with someone who immediately describes themself as being " not a nice guy" or " a mean/rude guy?"

If your answer to that question is yes, than you are insane. Being nice is just a prerequisite to even being somewhat likeable, so saying your nice is not only a huge disservice to the traits that truly make you shine but its also a huge way to make yourself look like everyone else on the planet. Which basically means there is nothing special about you, in other words you can give her the same exact thing everyone else can. Niceness.

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