Distance won, I'm falling out of love with my soulmate and I'm absolutely crushed. Don't know how to have that discussion

I would leave that soulmate stuff somewhere else. If he is, you can wait 2 years, or come to him for 2 years, or make it work somehow. You don't give up your life partner, who you're thinking of spending THE ENTIRE REST OF YOUR LIFE TOGETHER, having kids (if you want) a house, careers, sickness, health, adventure, bodies, minds, souls, the whole 9 yards, because of 2 years, or ever 4 if you're adding it all up.

If you're breaking up over this, this wasn't it. For your SOULMATE, you should be able to go no contact right now and get back together, faithfully, in 2 years, let alone go through it with each others support long distance.

That isn't to say it would be "easy" but that you could, because the alternative is no soulmate, and no partner.

I would leave all of that in your head, or somewhere else, and not bring it up to him in any way. Don't go telling someone "You're my soulmate, but I can't wait a few years, I need to find a man who lives around me and settle for them instead." That's pretty wild.

Just get right with yourself, figure out why you need this, and then need it. Be it. Tell him you'd like to explore the world around you and the distance isn't something you can handle any longer.

It's obviously 100% up to you if you'd like to leave the door open for 2 years from now when he's done, but I'd have trouble tracking someone down who left me over this. I'd just try and move on if I was him.

/r/LongDistance Thread Parent