We don't have an interest in each other anymore. Love has faded for one of us. We want VASTLY different things from our sex life, to the point where one of us is unsatisfied and bored, and the other is awkward and pressured. We envision different futures for ourselves and for our family. One of us is lacking in empathy and understanding, and the other is lacking in patience but has an abundance of stubbornness. There are a lot of layers, and the tension and how off things have been over the last year has been... noticeable. We don't make each other happy anymore as a couple, despite our best efforts, and our son has started to pick up on it, acting out at his care provider, clinging and begging me to stay with him, etc.

"Go do our own thing" makes it sound like we're talking about a difference in hobbies. "My husband is outdoorsy and I like staying in, so we have to divorce!" I wish it was that simple. This is not something we're considering lightly, and I am sad to be judged for it. :(

We're in counseling, both individually and as a couple, but it doesn't look good.