Divorce people of Reddit: how do you stop missing that person after being with them for so long?

Honestly, I would consider therapy if I had the money..

My exwife seems to say "I'm not build for this marriage or relationship stuff. I guess I only felt this way (depressed) when I was married the first time." Then a few minutes later she admits that she's in OkCupid and talking to a few people.

I'm thinking to myself "seriously? You clearly got a lot of self issues and you think hanging out with people and finding a new man is going to fix this?" What's even worse, she spent throughout the whole relationship and marriage complaining that her job sucked, that the town we live in sucks, that she wants to be in place that has more life and activities. So, I encourage her to find work in the city, lets move to new york.

Now, today, she did 1080 turn and says "I am now trying to be grateful at my job, I am grateful what I have." So I thought "yeah, grateful... I guess our marriage wasn't one of them." Then I said "oh, so you became stagnant.." Same words she used on me now on her. I got no reaction from her.

You know what's funny? When she ended it, she instantly said I'm a narcissist. I read into it and a lot of the things that google threw at me made me think "This shit sounds more like her than me!!"

Then you give me this link and once again it describes her character. I like how it says "she sucked you dry and then discard you like you're garbage". I always felt like she viewed me as an authority figure in the beginning but once she saw that I had flaws and didn't meet up to her expectations, that's where she lost her interest in me and our whole relationship. Hell, she even admited that her parents always treated her like a fucking princess in the family...

Like someone once said to me a while back "find a girl, find out about her family first. Then you'll know who she is."

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