Typical freaking tradcon response..
Not getting married makes sense if you don't value having a family and want to look out for #1.
Not outright saying it.. but sort of passive aggressively implying that I’m selfish. It’s not selfish to look out for yourself and make sure you don’t get fucked over by our gynocentric laws/courts.
Also, who said I don’t value having a family? I would love to be able to find someone to share my life with and raise kids of my own. Unfortunately though, those cards are off the table in this current climate.
For those of us that want to raise children and have a partner, it's just about finding someone with values that match your own.
Having similar values is very important when it comes to having a relationship. We’ll see how much those values matter to your wife if she ever decides she’s no longer in love with you and wants a divorce. When it comes times to figure out who gets custody, or when it comes time for her lawyer to make the case for her to get half of your paycheck every month ... we’ll see how much those traditional values matter then.
Divorce doesn't happen when you pick right (easier said than done) unless you are a "divorcing type"
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Oh Geez... this is about as cliche as you can get folks.
Millions and millions of people have married somebody that have similar values, life goals, aspirations, similar personalities, etc etc... Countless people have married someone who they thought was the right person.
But guess what? It sure as fuck didn’t stop them from getting divorced !
This argument you made... you’re basically blaming the victim. “Oh well you should have just picked a better partner. This is your fault. You need to just find a better woman”.... Give me a fucking break dude.
You think people get married to somebody if they aren’t sure that person is “the one”... NO, they don’t. Usually if a person decides they are going to marry someone, they do it because they think that is the right person for them. Most people don’t just go and marry the first person that shows them interest. If it gets to the point where they want to make a lifelong commitment, it’s because they think it will last forever. Your logic makes absolutely no sense dude..
Also, here’s a crazy concept for you... People change! Everyone changes over time and many people are completely different now than they were 5 or 10 years ago. There’s no guarantee that the person you marry now will still have those same values and beliefs later on down the road.
Not just that... but many people are excellent actors. There are tons of people out there that are masters of hiding their true selfs , at least until they get that ring on their finger and have secured that commitment and security. That’s usually when they start to show their true colors and all their shitty personality traits start to show. Then when you wake up one day and think , “oh my god.. who the fuck is this person?”
Your comment is about as stereotypical as it can get. I hope everyone that sees it is able to recognize the common tradcon arguments you are trying to make. When you start to pick apart at them, any rational minded person can easily see the flaws in that logic.
Your comment isn’t as bad as most, but it still reeks of male shaming to me. Shaming men into sacrificing their own happiness and well being for “the greater good”. Shaming men into putting themselves into vulnerable positions where chances are they will be completely destroyed if it came time for a divorce.
You sound very naive... but I’m happy for you that your found your unicorn. I wish you all the best and I hope for your sake that one day your wife doesn’t decide that you just aren’t doing enough for her, or you didn’t make her fairy tale dream life come true.. so instead she decides to cash out on her investment and get all the free prizes that comes with divorce (for women).
If/when that happens... make sure to look my username up and tell me all about it. I promise I’ll give you a sympathetic ear and I’ll try really hard not to say “I told you so”.