My ex-wife separated from me a little less than a year ago. My divorce was finalized about 6 months ago ending our 11 year marriage. We had been falling out of love with each otherthe previous year so it didn't completely break my heart. But I was a wreck for the first 6 months and completely unfit to do anything close to dating. But mostly that was due to fear of unknown especially since she thought I was cheating on her a couple months before she left and told me that if this leads to divorce she was going to take me for everything I had and of course she didn't tell me why she said that so I thought the worst when it came time to divorce.

Also I had to wrap my head around the fact that I will be a divorced guy living by myself which was daunting because my ex-wife spoiled the shit out of me and took care of me. For example last year I went in a grocery store for the first time since 2006. I had to call my mom and have her show me how to use my laundry machines because I hadn't done laundry in 14 years and washers and dryers got fancy in that time.

But once the divorce was official I quit being a wreck because I already had 6 months to get used to taking care of shit myself and I was not even close to being taken to the cleaners in the divorce. 15 days from petition to final (and she paid for it except the hour I paid for to have my lawyer look it over before I signed). So now I can start dating right? Wrong.

I'm not interested in casual flings anymore. Too much work is required and then there is the chance of her developing feelings. I'm also enjoying being single too much to do the whole dating scene. And like you I'm just not interested in other women sexually or emotionally. Well, there is girl I've been friends with for 3 years that I probably would not say no to if she came onto me even though I should say no. But luckily that isn't her personality at all so I'm safe.

So a year later and I'm still not interested or even wanting to focus on other women as anything more than friends.