Divorced reluctant father - Mother is remarrying - I want to reduce my involvement

It feels like he doesn't need that from me as much anymore, and like if we stopped seeing each other as much, he'd hardly notice after a couple months. If he ever wants more contact, I'd welcome it.

These two statements are not consistent.

He needs you, even if you don't feel like his dad. You ARE his dad. Mom's remarriage may not last, grandpa won't always be around, but YOU will be.

If you step back and stop being a part of his life, it will be a foregone conclusion that he will not want you in his life in the future.

Don't let mom or grandpa or anyone else make you think that your relationship with your son is not important, because it is.

Fight for your child. Even if you move away, there are ways around that. You can skype, face time, have him stay with you over school breaks, you can visit him. You need to be there.

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