DM just outright killed my character

A. YOU have every right to feel how YOU want to feel about the situation, No one has the right to tell YOU how YOU should feel about any situation.

The DM doing this may be a symptom and probably not the REAL problem. One of these, or a combination of these, things are the problem. You / the DM / the Group.

  1. Look at yourself in the mirror, what am I doing that could be the issue, BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, but don't make this a long process or dwell on it as it may not be you, but remember you can be a big factor to the overall problem.
  2. Have a sit down conversation with the DM privately about how they came to this decision and if there are any problems they would like to discuss. Be silent and allow them to speak without interruption. Let the person be brutally honest and lay it out there bare.
    1. Do not bring in your ideas from your "Self Reflection" let them express it in their way in their own words.
    2. let them know that you "would like to" bring this up at the next session because you would like to hear input from the rest of the players at the table. Even if they says no you should seriously think about bringing it up at the table.
  3. Have the conversation BEFORE the game starts at the next session and ask the DM and the whole table if everyone is good with this happening to their character and get a consensus from the group as a whole.
    1. WARNING: Do not single people out or have the conversations behind anyone's back, have them out in the open and candidly.
    2. Don't get emotional or accusatory, Ask open questions to the group that allow anyone to give their input openly and freely, Again, Do not interrupt even if they are hurtful words against you directly.
    3. Remember: You have been thinking about this a lot longer than they have and have more "invested" into the conversation than they do and you don't want to go in there with "Guns blazing" from the get go, you will look like a fool to the group if you are too over the top about this.
  4. Take all the feedback, even if it is hurtful or mean, and decide if YOU want to change these things. YOU have to be willing to make these changes to the things that are within your sphere of control and influence.
    1. Maybe the DM likes to have ultimate power and that is what brings them joy.
    2. Maybe the DM enjoys hurting others peoples feelings and watching people have an emotional reaction to the DM outright killing a character.
    3. Maybe you F'ing stink, and you need to take a GD shower.
    4. Maybe the DM didn't like your character because they feel like it is breaking their game.
    5. Maybe you are a pompous A'hole that has to be the smartest person in the room all the time.
    6. Maybe the DM doesn't like the way you look at their girlfriend/boyfriend.
    7. Maybe the DM has low self-esteem and self-confidence issues and see's you as a threat to their game.
  5. If the table as a whole is good with the DM doing this and you are not, maybe look for another group or just stick with it by creating a "clone" character.
    1. Create another character that is exactly the same everything. Instead of being John A. Smith its John B. Smith.
  6. If all else fails and the DM is doing this constantly to you and is targeted AT you, you probably just need to have a honest conversation with the table and tell them that you are not enjoying this and it is not fun for you, Just be straight up honest and direct.
    1. Be prepared for "If you are not having fun then leave." NOT with a snappy comeback, but with actual action like leaving the game and group.
  7. If the game or the people you are playing with has become (hate using this word) "Toxic", remember this is something that you are supposed to enjoy doing and provide you a sense of peace and fulfillment, if the thing that is supposed to bring you happiness is only bringing you anxiety and emotional stress, you may want to
    find another environment or outlet altogether.

Sorry for the novel but it does suck when something that happens. When you have put time and effort into something and it is taken away like that it is a dick move by the DM.

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