Hey, Kay! Straight off: I respect you, and I have a feeling we'd probably get on if we ever met. I got a lot out of reading your blog and you seem like a really nice person. Moreover, I've met some other friends of yours online, who've informed my perspective a lot.

I'm conscious what I'm saying is an attack on your core sense of identity. And while I argue a lot, I don't like saying things that hurt people. In that sense this verges on a religious debate. Just like I have religious friends whom I respect and would rather not argue religion with.

That said... just like a religious debate, it doesn't change the fact one side is making claims that aren't coherent or based in reality.

I don't accept anyone is "really transgender". The core claims don't make sense. You'll have to work with that. I'm not budging from the scientific definitions of man and woman, and I'm not going to play equivocation games about "gender".

Transkids, both FtM and MTF are never “conflicted” about their sexuality, have never felt guilt about it, nor feared that others may perceive them as homosexual.

This is rubbish and I'm almost certain you know it. I've read many "trans kid" accounts and not one of them doesn't reference gender nonconformity, or in older kids, preference for the same sex. It is not hard to find accounts from FtM's that are straight up homophobia.

Or how about this one from Reddit's r/asktransgender? "I can like boys", indeed.

What are we to make of the fact the old DSM for homosexuality is substantially identical to the new DSM for gender dysphoria?

This has become gay conversion therapy.

which is more likely to be the result of internalized homophobia?

Changing sex is hiding in the closet. For all intensive purposes, you're a "normal straight woman". Even better, you can have sex with men. I totally get it. If I were the effeminate kind of gay I might be tempted myself.

There's no longitudinal study showing there's any ability to predict which kids desist. But there's no reason they'd have any gender issues in the first place absent stereotypes and homophobia. It makes sense that effeminate homosexuals who could "pass" more easily are more likely to go MtF; it's a self selected cohort.

What's really concerning is the effect of social transition and blockers on desistence.

I'm going to be charitable and think you aren't seeing the scale of social contagion of gender identity issues that's going on. You're a smart person, and I'd much rather work with you on this one.