Hey, I didn't really understand your second paragraph (if you can rephrase it for me haha).

But regards to the first one, yes I agree with that. Out of the ex muslims, majority are men. Why not more women? (Kinda ties in to my next point addressing your 3rd paragraph) Just an observation of one possible factor, parents focus more on the daughter than the son. The daughter gets taught about Islam more than the son and that includes discipline and self control as well. (Again just one possible factor I've been observing).

However, tying into that to your third paragraph; most guys give into materialistic views, especially growing up. They get consumed into it, mainly from what they see people do, hear in music, and what they see on tv. (Yes, the same can be said for girls, but the parents focus more on the girl than the guy). I think of it as two forces competing, faith vs society (materialism/greed/lust etc..), parents are on the one end helping with faith, while society is on the other end. If the two ends are competing, and there's no one to push (teach) the faith, then the society will end up overpowering the faith. [I am horrible with analogies].

Anyway, I'm going off topic a little, but back to the ex-muslims. I've also noticed (I went across ex-muslim subreddit too) majority of them are ex muslim because of their interactions with "muslims." Most of it is, a relative, parent, sibling or w/e (family mainly) who they thought represented Islam. And I can guarantee that majority of the Pakistanis that I've seen in the US that are not following Islam currently (left it) were taught to only read the quran and pray. They were never taught why?

For example, parent would say don't talk to girls (to the guy) without giving a explanation besides (God says so). Many kids these days want explanations, and not want to hear "because so." This also stems from the parents, who do not have enough knowledge. After I came back to Islam I asked my mom questions as to why she never gave an explanation, she said she just learned it herself. She said (understandable) she had to leave Pakistan at a young age with my dad because the area was bad/unsafe and coming here, there were no proper Muslims in the area to teach them, so they had to base everything from what they remember.

She says now that there's a Muslim community growing and she understands it now and can give explanations etc... So now, we addressed that the ex muslims (the faction that had bad experience and no proper teaching) don't really understand it aside from the media, news, society. Almost every revert that I had met who left Islam and became atheist/agnostic, they all say the same, "I had no proper knowledge at the time."

Again, I can't speak for all, but this is the common trend I am seeing. Even people who are muslims but aren't practicing (even from Qatar), and we speak of Islam they hear new stuff from me, like from me! I'm like, don't you speak/read Arabic, and they say yeah, but they never read all the quran or remember hearing about xyz. Like the friend from Qatar didn't know there were more than 5 prophets.

I'm writing too much, but to put it short, a lot of ex muslims have had bad experience and don't really have the knowledge (including their parents). Then there are those who now have the knowledge but continue ignoring it because they do not want to give up drinking, zina, gambling etc...

To me, I think to fix the problem is to provide better understanding to the root of the issue, which would be the parents. However, we as a islamic community should be able to provide those resources to the parents and teens/adults.

idk, I'm rambling on now as an excuse to procrastinate on my homework lol.