So instead, we get a whole bunch of nearly identical platforms where men go to look at profiles of women who will never match with them while women go to match with super hot guys who will gladly have sex with them but won’t ever actually commit to them (why would they, when they have the postmates of women right on their phones).

Yes, exactly this. But think about what possible outcomes. If women can easily getting laid with guys who are way out of their league, they subconsciously become more hesitant to swipe right guys within their league, because they simply know they can get match with better looking guys.

Basically, women tend to match up lookswise, so men match down, and result is - men get frustrated they cant get a date with women they would actually really wanted to date (not just have sex with) so they give up, and sleep around with those others. And women then wonder, why all men want only to sleep with them. Well, not because those men dont want relationship - they want it. They just cant get matches with girls they would like to date, thats all.