I've felt like that as well. The thing is I am actually a good looking guy with a great body, but I have never had a girlfriend. I'm 23 also. I feel as though I wouldn't add much value to others' lives because I don't know how sometimes, as I am not socially motivated all the time.

Also, when I compare porn to people, it's much easier, requires no effort, faster, and I don't have to be vulnerable. With a girl I have to be vulnerable to be able to connect with her physically and emotionally.

For a long time I have been trying to figure out how to love myself as I am and just find someone like me. I did talk to a girl who watched porn as well. She was perfectly fine with it. But she just wanted sex and I lost interest when conversations went dull.

I just don't feel loveable sometimes, or that I can really love or even like someone else that much anymore. I think the porn numbs those emotions. It makes me apathetic to many things, actually.

So you are not alone, friend. I know this sounds kind of odd coming from a stranger, but I don't think there is something inherently wrong with you. You just should find someone who is like yourself, and if you are willing to be open about some of your personal issues, a certaim kind of woman might be able to accommodate you. It takes a lot of courage to be open about those types of things, but it could prove to be worth it.

If you feel apathetic but you want to date, maybe find someone who is apathetic, such as a female fapstronaut, just as an example. If you don't want to be apathetic, such as is the case with many of the NoFappers, it will require stopping the porn.

But please, don't try and be someone else in the meantime and try to meet someone else's standards. It sucks for both parties. In my addiction group I listened to stories of ruined marriages because men in my group were not honest about their sexuality. This resulted in them suppressing sexuality in the marriage to not upset the wife, and then they would seek out massage parlors and prostitutes as a means to express their repressed sexuality. That could be any of us. Please be honest with yourself and others.

I hope this helps, friend.