Does anyone else hate dating multiple people at once?

As someone level-headed who dates multiple people, here’s my thoughts: Online dating to find a compatible relationship, at least as a moderately attractive woman in her 20s, puts a lot of people in front of you. I don’t know how other people do it but I’ll go through profiles for a day and get a few matches, and over the course of the next couple weeks stop swiping and casually get to know this small handful of people. Taking this time to see if they’re receptive or engaging, maybe meet up with one or two, seeing who’s a better fit or if any fit at all. I’ll back away from the person when I sense a dead end coming up either with a heavy decline in talking or lackluster dates, till I’m keeping a slow conversation with whoever’s still around by my choice or theirs. At that point I’ll get back online and swipe through profiles again, and the cycle continues. If someone does put forth as much effort and there’s chemistry when we meet then I’ll slow talking to others shift my focus to them, but it’s never worked out with them yet and within a few weeks the cycle continues.

I don’t know if it’s my generation but I honestly wish it didn’t have to be this way. So many people my age lack the maturity to communicate and be honest about expectations, even when I prompt them and offer my own. I wish I met more people in person, it would be a different method I’ve never been able to experience before as there aren’t a group of potential suitors simultaneously getting to know me too. I imagine it’s different for guys as online dating isn’t as ripe with matches (also, fuck the ‘walk’ method people do on dating apps).

Is this a negative method? There hasn’t been as much meeting in person isn’t as often due to Covid it’s at least been a way to pass the monotonous days.

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