Definitely slightly more toxic. But luckily for me my partner was won over. I'm deeply not religious. No problem with those that are but have always stated I'd never have my child christened. I'd teach them about all religions and non, and If they decided later in their life they wanted to be christened etc then I'd support them, I want them to make their own decision and it be a fully informed one.

I've always stated this to my partner, who was christened (my in laws are Christians) but my partner is not religious their self but for "traditional" purposes has always stated they'd want any of our children to be christened. We've had deep conversations about why I feel that is wrong, and for myself that would be a lie and something I cannot do. So if they really wanted to christen them, I wouldn't attend or be a part of it. My mil can't see this and thinks we should have them christened.

Luckily for me we attended our first christening of my partners cousins kid a year ago. They saw how religious the ceremony is and now totally agree with me how us being non religious just can't do that as it is a total lie, and I think disrespectful. Luckily enough my partner also has the balls ... Our kid our rules. We'll teach them about as many religions as we can, through general conversation, school as well as our friends. We have close friends that are muslim, Sikh, Hindu as well as Catholics. I just want them to have an informed decision and grow to respect everyone's beliefs regardless.