Not sure what my exact personality is, but definitely starts with I! My husbands family live far away, i.e., we are down under, they are in Europe, so when they come to stay it’s a minimum 3 weeks at a time. We bought a house with an ensuite guest bedroom so they are out of the way, but it’s not the same as having the house to ourselves and they are not easy going people: not helpful and need constant “soothing”.

So, given it’s my first, and the first 3 months are by all accounts pretty miserable for first time parents (amazing, but terrible) I’ve said no visits from internationals for the first 3 months. (And to make up for it we’ve said we’ll go over there for baby’s first birthday). The amount of snark we got was incredible, but we are holding firm, (even though I’m the evil foreign wife keeping bubs from faaaamily). Even so I’m still not thrilled at the prospect of month-long visits at 3 months postpartum.