My life. BF never wanted one. Ex wouldn't budge out of spite. They weren't even 18 yet and she popped his daughter out. Kid is 11 now. She moved in with us for a few months and idolized me because, "you're so pretty and young. Not like my real mom! She has stretch marks ewww!" She irritated me to no end, but I tried the best I could. I busted my ass making her birthday perfect and she spit in my face the very next day, talking shit about me to her bio mom and begging to move back in with her.
Then she had the audacity to ask me to mail her the mini fridge and smart tv I lugged up the stairs and assembled on my own and wrapped in private to make her day special. I even hit a tree with my bf's car trying to peel out of the driveway so she wouldn't see the gifts in the car as she was leaving for school so I'm paying the money for those repairs to his big body Mercedes. A "family car" he bought. I brought cupcakes in for her class, got a sheet cake made at the store, made reservations and called her great grandparents to make sure people would come to her surprise party.
I bent over backward so that kid wouldn't be stuck where she started when she got here - intellectually stunted, immature, obnoxious and flat-out rude. I tried to treat her as an equal. She's eleven, not two.
What I found was that she was manipulative, callous and cruel. She would say the most hurtful things to me and cry and claim she was a victim if I started to cry or told her she was being hurtful.
After she decided to move back to her moms, I was so hurt that she'd go behind my back and complain that I "took her out for meals too much" and that she "didn't want a mom who makes her order off a menu" well, excuse me.
Like casting pearls before swine. Not all children can appreciate it
I'm glad she moved back there, but annoyed that people will say it had something to do with my stance on never wanting kids. She was grown enough to be left alone but wouldn't stay home on her own. She'd call people and say she was going to get kidnapped if I ran to the store to get pet food. It was insane. We're both at home 24/7.
I can't. I can't. When bio mom called BF and said "tell your gf to put the makeup down and cook something. Kiddie doesn't like ordering from a menu." I lost it. This kid told her mom she "doesn't feel comfortable without makeup anymore." I never bought that kid ANY makeup. I did her makeup once - for the daddy daughter dance. Now her moms side hates me for turning her into a little vanity case. I had nothing to do with it!
Sorry. Just venting