Not an incel anymore. Was just confused and adopted the label as a way to reclaim my sexlessness. Honestly I was just confused and alone when I was like that

I've made steps then to do the whole best version of yourself stuff and work on my empathy, communication, and self-worth and feel miles better than I used to. Now I can finally say I'm confident (and can also day confidence is not attractive)

People who use the word incel for themself tend to be off-putting irl to a lot of people

In my experience this isn't that true. The difference in how people treated me before, during, and after I called myself and incel is negligible. I do think it's helped me treat others better though