Does anyone have some good book recommendations on how to be more successful in dating?

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If you have any book recommendations on how to meet more people

I read a book long ago on how to be the life of the party. It gave specific instructions, focusing on daily interpersonal actions with strangers such as always smiling, saying thank you, telling people they look great, etc., such that after the second or third encounter with that stranger they'll see you as a familiar face and be inclined to strike a conversation, or be more receptive to having one. Further, with each interaction the positive feedback will build your confidence and make you even charismatic. It also included a process in the types of people to start of with, how to graduate to next levels, etc.

Needless to say it didn't work for me. I mean, I tried following the rules, but it became tiresome because it simply wasn't me. It was very easy to get people to start talking and being comfortable with you, but if you're fundamentally introverted and not interested in them as human beings, you're going to spend a lot of time faking being someone else.

Expecting a book to dynamically change your personality is equivalent to someone convincing you that there's nothing wrong with shorter guys. If you're not willing to change how you think about something that is fundamentally about you (they're not short -- you're just tall), then no book written by man will help your case.

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