Does my boyfriend (M,21) have a secret crush on my 12 year old sister (F,12)

Maybe he wanted to see how it felt to be a big brother? I almost thought that he might not have a sister of his own, until you mentioned it, however, his sister is around his own age group. It might also be that he doesn't feel like a 'respected' or 'admired' brother because of his own sister. (siblings with shaky or bad relationships sometimes try to fulfill that sibling bond with other people)

I'm not trying to defend this guy, I'm just playing the devil's advocate (since most people might immiditally jump to conclusions). Yea, it's questionable and weird that he didn't want you with him on the 'date', but as long as you don't get creepy or perverted vibes, I wouldn't get too worked up about it. You should, however, ask your sister regularly what they are doing in these 'dates'. Maybe I feel this particular way because I grew up seeing my cousin's husband taking the time to spend time with his SIL, because he himself didn't have one.

In the end, if you're not comfortable with it and don't trust him enough with your sister, just leave him. Nothing is stopping you.

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