I was in the same situation, like almost exact. I was beaten and had hot tea poured on me when I was putting gifts under the tree, for no reason. She was a drunk and hated that I would ask her to stop drinking. 8 years I put up with it, even started believing her when she would say things like I was stupid and worthless. I fought back once and all I did was push her but it didn’t stop her from attacking me. Abuse is in men and women don’t matter the sex it’s the shitty people that they are. Not all women are like that tho because now I’ve found someone who treats me so good and makes me want to be the best that I can be. I still am healing from the abuse, some days I think that my now fiancé doesn’t want to get married because she’ll get upset with me but she always reassures me that she loves me and it never gets violent.