I'm in a similar situation. My fiance told me in the beginning of our relationship that he wanted to have a baby with me. Then his kid spirals out of control (it's an extremely long story...one example is that she pees herself everyday during the day and every single night. She's 8 and feels no shame. She actually laughs about it) and I get punished. Now he never talks to me about it. If I make him, he says he doesn't want to start over and starts bitching about finances even though our household brings in over $100k a year (me bringing in the majority). Lately it feels like all he brings to the table is stress and the cherry on top is that now I'm not allowed to have a kid of my own. I don't even know what else to hold onto. We've been engaged for 5 years and are supposed to get married in the fall. I can't even stay excited about it for an entire day anymore. My life is about comprising everything I ever wanted. I'm not sure how long you've been together, but if he doesn't want kids and you do, get out if the relationship is new or you'll feel too invested, cry every day, and feel trapped like I do. If anything, at least your significant other is honest. I was very deceived. :(