Dom ignored a limit but I didn't safe word

Such reckless unsafe attitude, it's up to both parties to always make sure safe words or signals are used and then it's up to the sub to use them. It's up to the dom to make sure there are no unexpected situations that would restrict the safe word, there are never times where it's ok for a sub not to use them when they want to. Your membership wouldn't last long in a club with this unsafe attitude and I'm not just blaming OP I was also putting blame on the dom for getting carried away and pushing, but yes the OP should have safe worded 100% a lot earlier instead of allowing the dom to please her, because as she said she was enjoying it, what sort of mind game signals does that give a dom???

Anyway I'm old fashioned, I wasn't trained with books, there wasn't books when I entered the scene, you got trained one-on-one and safety and the responsibility of using the safe word was literally whipped into me so I understand the younger crowd thinks differently here but my opinion won't change, OP needs to take some responsibility because she broke trust when she didn't safe word which could have injured her, it's already stuck with her mentally, if she spoke up sooner this all would have been avoided because as she said it was an enjoyable time until then. I do think it's unfair you've all labeled this unknown dom as some sort of rapist monster.

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